Date Readiness Confidence Calculator

Are you ready to go on a date? If you’re unsure, you can easily find out with our easy-to-use Date Readiness Confidence Calculator. This calculator works well for people who continuously scour dating apps and websites but are afraid to make the jump. The calculator will give you a Date Readiness Confidence Score of up to 100% and let you know if you need to move on to another person or if you’re ready to go out with the person you’re currently talking to.

How to Use the Date Readiness Confidence Calculator (With Examples)

1. Enter the Number of Messages Exchanged
   • Think about how much you’ve communicated with your match. Input the total number of messages sent and received.
     Example: If you’ve had a good back-and-forth with 20 messages, enter “20.”
2. Add the Number of Shared Interests Discussed
   • Reflect on how many mutual interests or topics you’ve talked about. This could include hobbies, favorite movies, or shared travel goals.
     Example: If you’ve discussed three shared interests, like your love for hiking, sushi, and mystery novels, enter “3.”
3. Count the Personal Anecdotes Shared
   • Input how many personal stories or experiences you’ve shared. These could be funny stories, memorable trips, or heartfelt moments.
     Example: If you’ve shared two personal anecdotes, like your hilarious camping trip or your first time skiing, enter “2.”
4. Click ‘Calculate Confidence’
   • After entering the details, click the button to generate your Date Readiness Confidence Score.
5. Review Your Results
   • The calculator provides a confidence score (up to 100%) and offers tailored feedback to help you decide whether you’re ready to ask for a date or if you need to build more rapport.

Example Results:

• Confidence Score: 85%
  Feedback: You’re ready to ask for a date! Go for it!
• Confidence Score: 60%
  Feedback: You’re almost there. Keep the conversation going to build a stronger connection.
• Confidence Score: 35%
  Feedback: You might want to engage more and learn more about each other before asking for a date.

The Introvert’s Guide to Dating App Conversations

Being an introvert on a dating app is tough. Speaking to strangers is already a challenge, but charming a stranger into thinking you’re (at least) mildly attractive and worth a date night out? That may sound like a Herculean task, but with a few quick hacks and strategies, turning yourself into a great conversationalist on dating apps can be a piece of cake.

1. Start with a question.

So you’ve swiped right on someone you really like – what’s next? There’s no faster way to get a conversation started than with a question. Not only does that create space for your match to provide a reply, it also shows that you have a genuine interest in getting to know this person.

A simple “How’s your weekend,” or “Beautiful cat in your profile picture! Are you a cat person?” doesn’t take too much effort, but it’s definitely a lot better than a one-word greeting.

Of course, don’t mention the cat if your match doesn’t have a cat in their photo!

2. Get ready with your topic list.

Movies, travel, food, and hobbies – these are all general, but interesting topics you can craft some questions about. Of course, deeper topics like politics and religion are also important, but keeping it light for the first part of your conversation helps build that initial connection until you’re ready to discuss something closer to heart.

And no, having a topic list doesn’t mean you go down the list and check off questions like “What’s your favorite food?” methodically. It just means you’ll always have a couple of questions to tap into whenever the conversation seems to be getting a little dry, or when you’d like to pivot to talk about something else, instead of freezing up and letting the chat die.

3. Give them a little fodder

As much as asking questions helps you get to know your match better, remember that they’ll want to know more about you too if they’re equally keen. Regularly slotting in anecdotes or personal experiences in between your questions allows them to ask you questions in turn and keep the conversation going.

However, remember not to overshare your personal details for safety, or ramble too much about something you’re really passionate about. Great conversation should be about the back and forth!

4. Link your thoughts together.

Identify key words in the conversations that could potentially help you ask more questions or enter a whole new topic of discussion. For instance, if you were asking someone what they were up to last weekend, and they told you they watched a movie, treat the “movie” as a keyword to segue into new discussion topics.

What movie did they watch? Where was the movie filmed? Is that somewhere they’d like to visit someday? What types of travel destinations do they usually prefer?

And there, you have it. You’ve just turned the most everyday conversation starter question into a whole new conversation about traveling.

Feel the conversation about travel dying down? Grab on to another keyword, and use it to open up yet another topic of discussion – just a mere mention of the food they ate on their last trip could turn into a new conversation about their comfort foods, wine pairings, favorite restaurants, which is coincidentally when you can…

5. …Go for it

As in, ask your date out. Conversations about restaurants and food are the perfect gateway to dates because they are a natural lead-up to asking your match if they’d like to have dinner together at a place that serves their favorite cuisine. Or coffee at a killer coffeehouse, or drinks at your favorite speakeasy – whichever works.

Don’t have a place that seems to fit in the conversation? Just take any food that was discussed, and link it to what you have in mind. For instance, your match may be a raving fan of Japanese cuisine, while you have absolutely no recommendations to offer. In that case, you can try, “I’m not great with Japanese restaurants, but I have a lovely Korean place I visit often. Would you like to try it out this weekend?”

All in all, the key to dating app conversations is to keep them going, at least until you have a date. Getting started is always difficult, especially if small talk has never been your forte. These tips aren’t going to guarantee you a date or a relationship, but they can make you a better conversationalist and open the doors for many good conversations to come. The Date Readiness Confidence Calculator can help you along that route.